Great dads come in all packages, don’t they?
That is a quote from this article about a tattoed father interacting with his daughter in a grocery store. When I read that I couldn't help but think about your father. While some may say that your father is a bad person for not being part of your life I would disagree and say... He did what your mother asked him to do. The decision wasn't easy and noone but your father understands that pain that goes along with the decision. Your father did the most loving thing for you that he knew how at the time. I'm sure your mother would agree with that. I'm also sure you've been raised in a home full of love and caring for you. That is all your father and I have wanted for you. To be loved and to NEVER question that your mother and father love you beyond what you will EVER comprehend.
Daniel and I agreed no more posts of Bryer . Please delete this and never post one of her again. We had an agreement and just so were clear Daniel asked me to sign his rights away and I thought about I agreed it was for the best but he would only fully commit as long as he didn't have to pay child support. He doesn't pay. So please get rid of these and never post ne thing about my lil girl again. My lil girl has a dad now and its not Daniel . Please just focus on ur own beautiful boys and not on my lil girl. It's been over 2 1/2 years please close the gap. This wasn't an open adoption. No more of this please if u care at all about her . Thank u. I appreciate it.
ReplyDeleteDoes 2 1/2 years make any difference? If anything it makes it harder in some ways because I know that I miss her doing new and funny things. We talked about what the options were and you wanted me to do what I did. Obviously the choice was mine in the end but as you said we both agreed that we thought it was for the best at the time. You're right, this wasn't an open adoption. In fact it isn't an adoption at all (you can't adopt your own child). All we did was this: I agreed to not try to get my visitation and you agreed to not try to collect any money from me. I think that has worked out fairly well (considering the circumstances). This blog has absolutely no effect on you, her, your family, or her new dad (if there really is one, which I hope there is and that he's a great guy and dad to her). So I guess you can get mad about it if you choose too but in the end all I have is a blog while you get to see her grow, develop, learn, laugh, sing, dance, play, run, kick, and discover the world. But maybe you're right, this is way too much for me to have. We do care about her which is why we want to tell her things, ask her things, and show her things but since we can't we occasionally post it on a blog. So if you care about her at all and understand the situation you would leave this blog alone knowing that we have it only because we care. Thank you. I appreciate it.
DeleteThat is SO funny you said this AMY, "SHE HAS A DAD AND ITS NOT DANIEL!" DNA proves otherwise. The other guy can't LEGALLY adopt her unless Daniel signs over his rights in a court of law.
ReplyDeleteI am a mother to a daughter that does not have a father (unlike how Daniel AND Katelyn want to be involved) who is about to be 11. Although my ex husband was a father to her (as you are referring to your NEW MAN) that NEVER changes anything.
Unless, of course, you are not 100% honest with Bryer about her father, which unfortunately HONEY, makes you less of a woman by doing so. You should ALWAYS be honest with your daughter. What happens when she comes to you years down the road questioning this? You are going to make your daughter HATE you! Trust me.
I would give MY RIGHT ARM & LEG to have my daughter's FATHER in her life. You are denying your daughter from so much. You should be ASHAMED!!
I'm not denying her of ne thing. Which shows how little u know of a bad situation . What I'm asking is that they keep my daughters life private and not broad cast world wide . A dad takes more than sperm hon. A dad is someone who has raised them and taken care of them and that's what she has. When a man hasn't paid child support over a certain period of time there's a law that basterdizes the child which is the case. I would never lie to my child. My daughter has the right to keep her personal life personal not publicized for sympathy . So Crystal u should really learn to mind ur business and not cast judgement when u don't know the circumstances. All I have asked for is to not have my daughter publicized. That is all. I'm protecting an innocent child which is my job . No one cares more for her and her well being then I do. So u all should b ashamed of ur selves for broad casting about an innocent child. Bye losers .
ReplyDeleteYou're right, it is a bad situation. You're also right that I am not her dad. A dad is everything you said they are. I have never referred to myself as her dad nor will I ever. But I am her father, that does take only sperm. And I know all about the law you are talking about. But it doesn't sound very nice when you refer to your own child as becoming bastardized. The more proper term for it would be the abandonment law. I have broadcast nothing about her life. As you've said before I am not there so I don't know about her life so I couldn't possibly broadcast it. Actually more information comes out because you stalk the blog and feel the need to comment on it. Then I feel the need to clarify things so you are actually helping to "broadcast [her] worldwide". I have done nothing for sympathy, only to have a place for me and my family to express our feelings. Which actually doesn't involve you or her. Anyone reading this knows no more about her, personally, then they did before reading it. See ya winner.
Deleteyou are correct Stareyes that after a period of time of unpaid child support all rights are denied. That period of time is 9 years from the date the last amount of money was paid. Doesn't sound like it's been 9 years so what ever legal advice you received was wrong
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